Embrace The Mundane
Monday, March 21, 2016
EEEW
Yuk. I hate that it's been this long since I've pondered life long enough to put my thoughts on this blog. But it's true. Drat. So I will let my rediscovery tonight of friend and fellow blogger's posts inspire me. BUT NOT TONIGHT! (not to be too Augustinian or anything.) I just wanted anyone peering into this little window to know I am still here.
Tuesday, July 17, 2012
Happy Anniversary?
Last month, I had an anniversary of sorts. I joined the
ranks of the admitted at Providence Hospital in Everett on Tuesday, June 1,
2010. On the morning of June 2, just as I stabbed a fork into my deeply desired
hospital pancakes, my neurologist walked in to give me a definite diagnosis of
Relapsing-Remitting Multiple Sclerosis. Breakfast was over.
Although I just had my 2nd “anniversary” last
month, I approximate that I’ve had this degenerative disease for at least 18
years. It stayed mostly hidden until manifesting unmistakably when my 5th child,
Rose, was 6 months old. I used to separate my life into two sections: before
kids, after kids. Now I can’t help but separate my life into two new sections: before
MS, after MS.
I’ve compiled information, some from various websites and
some from memory, into a “report” so that my loved ones can learn about the
disease that guides most of my activities. I truly hope everyone I intend this
for will read it, and perhaps even pass it along to others who may wish to
learn about Multiple Sclerosis.
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Multiple Sclerosis (MS) is an incurable disease involving
the immune system and the central nervous system. The immune system defends the
body from attack by micro-organisms such as bacteria and viruses. In the case
of MS, the immune system attacks part of the body itself: the nerves. MS occurs when the
protective sheath (myelin) around the nerve fibers in the brain and spinal cord
becomes damaged, causing random patches called plaques or lesions. These
patches distort and interrupt the messages that are sent along these nerves.
‘Sclerosis’ means scar, and the disease is labeled ‘multiple’ because the
damage usually occurs at a number of points. The effects are varied; no two
people with MS will have exactly the same symptoms. MS is not contagious, but
it is progressive and unpredictable. The trigger to the disease has not yet
been discovered, but it is thought that genetic and environmental factors are
involved. Research so far has found that in nearly two-thirds of cases, a
relapse has been preceded by a viral illness. However, many treatments and
medications are available to ease the symptoms and modify the course of the
disease.
An estimated 2,500,000 people around the world have multiple
sclerosis. These people are generally:
*Young adults – symptoms first appear between the ages of 20
and 40 years.
*Female – 70% of people with MS are female.
*Caucasian – 98% of people with MS are Caucasian.
*Living in temperate zones – MS is generally more common
between latitudes 40° and 60° north and south of the equator.
*Have a relative with MS – between 10 and 20% of people with
MS have a relative with the disease, suggesting a genetic link.
More than 50 symptoms are linked to MS, and each person
develops symptoms differently. They are varied and unpredictable. MS can damage
the central nervous system in many different locations, which means no two
people will share exactly the same symptoms or exactly the same intensity of
symptoms. Many of the symptoms mimic problems that occur with other diseases,
and usually come and go. This can create misunderstanding or dubiousness on the
part of people who deal with others who have MS, since a person with MS could
feel “just fine” in the morning and barely be able to function by afternoon, or
vice versa.
Some of the more common MS symptoms include:
*Blurred or double vision (from optical neuritis)
*Numbness or pins and needles in
extremities (“parasthesia”)
*Weakness in the arms or legs
*Loss of balance
*Tendency to drag one foot (“foot drop”)
*Loss of coordination
*Extreme fatigue
*Continence problems
*Hand tremors
*Loss of mobility
*Problems with or changes in memory functioning
*Speech difficulties and slurring
*Spasticity
MS has different forms and progression. Some people with MS
may become seriously disabled. Others may have one or two attacks and then
remain relatively symptom free for the rest of their lives. The frequency and
severity of attacks cannot be predicted.
(I experience varying degrees of parasthesia, weekness in my arms and legs, loss of coordination, fatigue, memory loss, and speech difficulties...so far.)
There are four different classifications of MS:
There are four different classifications of MS:
*Relapsing–Remitting (RRMS) – 85% of people with MS start
with this type of disease course. Acute episodes of neurological symptoms
occur, which last for days, weeks or months before completely or partially
resolving. The intervals between attacks can vary widely but, on average, occur
every one to two years.
*Primary Progressive (PPMS) – affects around 10 % of people
with MS from the onset. These individuals experience no relapses but suffer a
gradual increase of disability, which does NOT recover or reverse.
*Secondary Progressive (SPMS) – occurs in individuals who
started with Relapsing–Remitting MS, but their relapses diminish in frequency
or cease altogether. HOWEVER, disability continues to accumulate. As of several
years ago, about 50% of people who start with Relapsing–Remitting MS develop
Secondary Progressive MS after 15 years. However, with the use of disease
modification drugs, this percentage has dramatically decreased.
*Progressive Relapsing (PRMS) – this occurs in about 5% of
people from the outset, with relapses occurring and disability accumulating
between relapses.
Diagnosis and treatment:
Most of the symptoms of MS can also be caused by other
conditions and do not automatically mean a diagnosis of MS. As yet, there is no
single test to diagnose MS. A number of specialized tests may be
necessary:
*magnetic resonance imaging (MRI) of the brain and spinal
cord, usually with and without an injection of contrast dye
*a neurological exam to observe functioning of the cranial
nerves (these control the senses, as well as how you talk and swallow) in
coordination, strength, reflexes, and sensation
*a visual evoked potential test (VEP), during which electrodes
are attached to the scalp and connected to an electroencephalograph (EEG) to
record brainwaves in response to a series of checkerboard patterns displayed on
a screen
*a spinal tap, during which a needle is inserted into the
spine at a specific spot between the vertebrae to collect cerebrospinal fluid
(CSF). The fluid is sent for evaluation, looking for the presence of
oligoclonal bands (an increased number of certain antibodies) -- an indicator
of increased immune activity in the spinal fluid
*blood tests to rule out other diseases.
(I had all the tests done, and I undergo an MRI each year in
July to check any progression.)
There are two basic rules for diagnosing MS:
*The person must have had at least two relapses (an episode
where symptoms were present). These episodes must have been separated by at
least one month.
*There must be more than one lesion on the brain or spinal
cord.
(I have had three episodes, but my “big one” was the attack
that led to my diagnosis. As of last year, I have 10 lesions in my brain and
one large one on my spinal cord.)
Diagnostic Categories:
*Negative: Negative means negative. You don’t have MS. It is
possible for the doctor to give this diagnosis only when another definite
diagnosis is made that can account for your symptoms.
*Possible: This means that you may have symptoms that look
like MS, but your tests are normal. No other diagnosis which accounts for the
symptoms has been confirmed.
*Probable: Many people fall into this category when they are
first seen by a neurologist. You may have symptoms that look like MS and have
had two separate episodes separated by at least a month, but normal findings on
an MRI. You could also have an MRI that showed only one lesion in your brain or
spine. In this case, your doctor will probably recommend repeating the MRI
after a certain period of time (for instance, 3 months) to see if any other
lesions appear. Depending on how certain your doctor is that you really do have
MS, he may recommend that you consider starting an early therapy.
*Definite: Your case fits the diagnostic criteria above. You
have had at least two attacks, separated in time, plus at least two areas of
demyelination.
(My diagnosis is definite.)
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A popular saying in the MS community is, “I have MS, but MS
doesn’t have me!” This is a bit too Susie Sunshine for the likes of me, because
you bet I feel like it has me—often. I know what all those people are trying to
say, however: don’t let the MS diagnosis define WHO YOU ARE. That’s a tall
order for some, including me. My symptoms are a burden on my family, harming my
mothering and my marriage. I must fight like crazy to keep it from doing real
damage. If I give in to the moods, pain, discomfort, disabilities, etc., I let
it hurt everyone. So my job is to acknowledge it, communicate what I need, and
not let it take over. Tricky!
Friday, April 6, 2012
Thoughts On The Reunion
I had hoped to write more on the Greene Sibling Reunion last summer, but I got only so far before I just quit. I am now hoping that my siblings who may be reading this blog will reply with their own thoughts. Here are mine.
Clusters of dead aspens reach toward the pure, lustrous azure sky like desperate, dexterous, multi-fingered hands. Live aspens bow to me with each blow of the wind, showing me their joy at my visit.
Mountain bluebirds! Vultures! Aspens! Rocky Mountain Range! Mesas! Red dirt! Where’s my camera...but it can’t capture my excitement at these first experiences.
Stones in colors not found at home blanket random portions of the mountain floor. River rock, they say...which river? I want to go there. Think of the number of stones...
Faces change expressions here, there. So many faces! Split-second switches from puzzled to joyful, peaceful to jestful.
My birthday. My extended family. Pretty baby. Birthday song—for ME! Bounteous, blazing bonfire in the darkest of nights. Folding chairs. Starbucks cards. Laughter. Late.
My MS in Colorado: like a group of animals finding a faulty latch on the gate, running past the sleeping zookeeper—the keeper of their incarceration—relishing every moment of their newfound freedom in the midst of unknown surroundings, knowing the bars will hold them again once morning breaks and the zookeeper corrals them into the cages. I return home. “Naughty little animals…don’t you know you belong here now? In you go…”
Wednesday, March 28, 2012
On Cleaning The Car
"FILTH. UTTER FILTH." Repeating myself with each car door I opened, rags and sprays in hand, I was prepared. It was time to clean the Dufresne limousine, our Honda Odyssey. Not that I was dreading it, mind you. I love the feeling of a clean car. In fact, I prefer to clean it myself. I know where all the cracks and creases are, and I CARE about cleaning them. I remember when it took my mother by surprise when I finally "grew up" and began keeping my surroundings clean. Of course, my surroundings aren't just mine anymore...with seven people living in the house, cleanliness is a luxury. The car, however, is considerably smaller than the house, making it an easy target for my desperate need for order.
First step: take out the contents. This is a harrowing and humbling experience for me, since I am a borderline pack rat (no giggling, please) and I feel "safe" having every item I could possibly use (and some I will realistically never use) at the ready during transit. Unfortunately for the kids, I place several "packs" of these items near their assigned seats in case I am driving and the need arises for a particular item. So I removed all of these things, placing them carefully on a pre-cleaned concrete step next to the parked car. Wow...what a bunch of stuff. Don't think about it. Keep going.
Second step: clean off the car seats. I have a 5-point harness seat still for Rose and a booster seat for Peter. Although the official rule is no eating anything but Cheerios and Puffs in the car, somehow we manage to eat our fair share of on-the-run french fries, candy, toast, milk...snacks. I do appreciate the leather on the seats more than I thought I would when we purchased the van a bit over 2 years ago. (Did I tell all y'all about my experience on HWY 2 when my van died on the way to pick up the big kids from school--and the babies were with me???) Ugh...look at all the CRUD in the cracks. Don't think about it. Keep going.
Third step: dust/wipe dash, doors and controls. Not long after we bought the van, Joe used some weird cleaner on the dash. It took off the finish from about 1/4 of the surface, leaving a dull section that continues to haunt him. "I wrecked the car," he stated flatly to me afterward, making me think that he actually DID wreck it somehow. Nope--he just ruined some of the prettiness. "Better than cat urine," I think I said after I saw it. He was not amused. Now, I just clean the dash instead of attempting to buff it to a shine. In a halfway shiny state, it's a harsh reminder to the poor dude of his failed attempt at buffing it himself. He hasn't cleaned it since. That's OK, because like I said before, I like cleaning it myself. Even if it's not perfect anymore. Don't think about it. Keep going.
Fourth step: wash windows inside, along with the "holders" below them. This is the most entertaining job, since I discover all kinds of "secret" designs and messages on the glass. During rides to school on mornings that produce lots of fog on the windows, Edward, Benen and Peter (individually) compose various statements and drawings for their eyes only, afterward watching as the fog dissipates and leaves the window seemingly untouched. Up close, however, a keen eye can see these clandestine artistic pleasures. And they are pleasurable to see. There are too many receptacles in our van, though. Despite my being a BIG fan of receptacles (ask my sisters), the job of washing all these is tedious and takes dexterity I no longer have in abundance. Plus, it's GROSS. Don't think about it. Keep going.
Fifth step: vacuum. I like this part the best of all. I think my fondness stems from a general enjoyment of cleaning floors. It's the most noticeable, appreciated--and therefore most satisfying--job in the house and pretty much anywhere else. But there are other benefits. I get to see if any particular kid is eating things I don't know about. I can easily blame any kid for his own mess. I find lost earrings, pencils, notes, etc. that have been missing since the last vacuum, making me the hero--sometimes. However, there are occasions when I have come across rotten bits of food (reference to second step) that are in several states of decay/mold. Don't think about it. Keep going.
Sixth step: once-over. This is my last chance to look at everything I just cleaned and decide if it's "good enough" or not. By this time, I'm totally wiped out from stretching and leaning in directions my body isn't used to going. All I want to do is rest. Don't think about it. Keep going.
Seventh step: reload. The last step, this one is the BEST. Restocking the car means I am in command of the items going into it. This gives me tremendous power, which I like. Sounds minor, but for me, it is calming and gives me a secure feeling. Is that bad? Don't think about it. Keep going.
It's 6:00 pm, and it took me 1 1/2 hours to clean the van. DONE. What an accomplishment! What satisfaction! What's for dinner? Uh-oh...
Don't think about it.
First step: take out the contents. This is a harrowing and humbling experience for me, since I am a borderline pack rat (no giggling, please) and I feel "safe" having every item I could possibly use (and some I will realistically never use) at the ready during transit. Unfortunately for the kids, I place several "packs" of these items near their assigned seats in case I am driving and the need arises for a particular item. So I removed all of these things, placing them carefully on a pre-cleaned concrete step next to the parked car. Wow...what a bunch of stuff. Don't think about it. Keep going.
Second step: clean off the car seats. I have a 5-point harness seat still for Rose and a booster seat for Peter. Although the official rule is no eating anything but Cheerios and Puffs in the car, somehow we manage to eat our fair share of on-the-run french fries, candy, toast, milk...snacks. I do appreciate the leather on the seats more than I thought I would when we purchased the van a bit over 2 years ago. (Did I tell all y'all about my experience on HWY 2 when my van died on the way to pick up the big kids from school--and the babies were with me???) Ugh...look at all the CRUD in the cracks. Don't think about it. Keep going.
Third step: dust/wipe dash, doors and controls. Not long after we bought the van, Joe used some weird cleaner on the dash. It took off the finish from about 1/4 of the surface, leaving a dull section that continues to haunt him. "I wrecked the car," he stated flatly to me afterward, making me think that he actually DID wreck it somehow. Nope--he just ruined some of the prettiness. "Better than cat urine," I think I said after I saw it. He was not amused. Now, I just clean the dash instead of attempting to buff it to a shine. In a halfway shiny state, it's a harsh reminder to the poor dude of his failed attempt at buffing it himself. He hasn't cleaned it since. That's OK, because like I said before, I like cleaning it myself. Even if it's not perfect anymore. Don't think about it. Keep going.
Fourth step: wash windows inside, along with the "holders" below them. This is the most entertaining job, since I discover all kinds of "secret" designs and messages on the glass. During rides to school on mornings that produce lots of fog on the windows, Edward, Benen and Peter (individually) compose various statements and drawings for their eyes only, afterward watching as the fog dissipates and leaves the window seemingly untouched. Up close, however, a keen eye can see these clandestine artistic pleasures. And they are pleasurable to see. There are too many receptacles in our van, though. Despite my being a BIG fan of receptacles (ask my sisters), the job of washing all these is tedious and takes dexterity I no longer have in abundance. Plus, it's GROSS. Don't think about it. Keep going.
Fifth step: vacuum. I like this part the best of all. I think my fondness stems from a general enjoyment of cleaning floors. It's the most noticeable, appreciated--and therefore most satisfying--job in the house and pretty much anywhere else. But there are other benefits. I get to see if any particular kid is eating things I don't know about. I can easily blame any kid for his own mess. I find lost earrings, pencils, notes, etc. that have been missing since the last vacuum, making me the hero--sometimes. However, there are occasions when I have come across rotten bits of food (reference to second step) that are in several states of decay/mold. Don't think about it. Keep going.
Sixth step: once-over. This is my last chance to look at everything I just cleaned and decide if it's "good enough" or not. By this time, I'm totally wiped out from stretching and leaning in directions my body isn't used to going. All I want to do is rest. Don't think about it. Keep going.
Seventh step: reload. The last step, this one is the BEST. Restocking the car means I am in command of the items going into it. This gives me tremendous power, which I like. Sounds minor, but for me, it is calming and gives me a secure feeling. Is that bad? Don't think about it. Keep going.
It's 6:00 pm, and it took me 1 1/2 hours to clean the van. DONE. What an accomplishment! What satisfaction! What's for dinner? Uh-oh...
Don't think about it.
Sunday, March 25, 2012
1991
I recently rediscovered a photograph of me and Joe right after his graduation from Gonzaga University. His dad took the picture as we were standing on the sidewalk outside Joe's house that he shared with 3 other great guys. We had just come from the graduation ceremony (loooooong), and Joe is wearing his orange engineering swag around his neck, above the black gown. Magna Cum Laude. Electrical Engineering. Girlfriend attending. Parents proud. Roommates ecstatic. Sun shining. The picture shows two happy young adults, smiling from ear to ear, holding each other side-by-side, fresh and full of promise. Was I really that cute and spry? Hmm. Seems to me I may have been!
I was about to turn 21, and I had no idea where my life was going. I had Joe, but he was leaving in a couple of days to begin working full time at Boeing in Renton (near Seattle) while I kept my job at Nordstrom (in Spokane). My mother had left the house for her first teaching job in central WA the previous January, so I shared the house--and the house payment--with my brother, Michael. Otherwise, I was ALONE.
Strange thing about being alone and an extrovert: it is lonely. I enjoyed having my own "stuff" around me, but I really missed my family and wanted more regular companionship. This was scary, since I resorted to staying out with coworkers into the night to allay my loneliness. I had a great time unwinding with the people I got to know at my job, and I cherish those days and nights. But something nagged at me constantly: who am I? I knew the Catholic girl, the daughter, the sister, the friend, the girlfriend, the employee, the idealist, the sensitive. Who else? Where will she go? What does she want? This was tough. It would get tougher as I searched for the answer.
I was sure as ever that I didn't want to get married "too young", but even surer that I wanted to marry that Joe guy. Although we parted that May with tears and uncertainty of the future, OUR future, I knew the choice was clear: I will marry him. We were bonded. It was a matter of time. I needed that time to figure out what I wanted for myself. Yeah, yeah...kids. That was a no-brainer. But WHAT ELSE? Anything else? I looked around at the people I knew and sought inspiration from their lives. People who married young and yet found the time, amidst baby bottles and dirty diapers, to finish college and get a respectable job. People who waited until college was finished before marrying and having families. People who didn't even have prospects of marriage and carried on with life, making good things happen for themselves. People who may have done any of these things, but were unhappy, because it wasn't the right choice. I had to make the right choice. I did what I knew I could do: keep working and let time unfold its secrets. Sounds like a cop-out, but it actually worked! I really enjoyed my job, Joe and I visited each other at least once a month, I moved into an old apartment near work, and continued building my feeling of independence. By the time Joe and I got the nerve up to GET MARRIED, I felt like a real, live, grown-up woman. My mother used to say, "You're just a late bloomer, honey...and that's ok!" I totally believe it.
All's well that ends well, as Shakespeare's Helena said. She was pretty much right...although perhaps I shouldn't compare my life with hers! But the tenor got the girl, they made 5 great kids, have a big, God-filled house with lots of love and noise, and everybody gets what he needs. The future is wide open.
I was about to turn 21, and I had no idea where my life was going. I had Joe, but he was leaving in a couple of days to begin working full time at Boeing in Renton (near Seattle) while I kept my job at Nordstrom (in Spokane). My mother had left the house for her first teaching job in central WA the previous January, so I shared the house--and the house payment--with my brother, Michael. Otherwise, I was ALONE.
Strange thing about being alone and an extrovert: it is lonely. I enjoyed having my own "stuff" around me, but I really missed my family and wanted more regular companionship. This was scary, since I resorted to staying out with coworkers into the night to allay my loneliness. I had a great time unwinding with the people I got to know at my job, and I cherish those days and nights. But something nagged at me constantly: who am I? I knew the Catholic girl, the daughter, the sister, the friend, the girlfriend, the employee, the idealist, the sensitive. Who else? Where will she go? What does she want? This was tough. It would get tougher as I searched for the answer.
I was sure as ever that I didn't want to get married "too young", but even surer that I wanted to marry that Joe guy. Although we parted that May with tears and uncertainty of the future, OUR future, I knew the choice was clear: I will marry him. We were bonded. It was a matter of time. I needed that time to figure out what I wanted for myself. Yeah, yeah...kids. That was a no-brainer. But WHAT ELSE? Anything else? I looked around at the people I knew and sought inspiration from their lives. People who married young and yet found the time, amidst baby bottles and dirty diapers, to finish college and get a respectable job. People who waited until college was finished before marrying and having families. People who didn't even have prospects of marriage and carried on with life, making good things happen for themselves. People who may have done any of these things, but were unhappy, because it wasn't the right choice. I had to make the right choice. I did what I knew I could do: keep working and let time unfold its secrets. Sounds like a cop-out, but it actually worked! I really enjoyed my job, Joe and I visited each other at least once a month, I moved into an old apartment near work, and continued building my feeling of independence. By the time Joe and I got the nerve up to GET MARRIED, I felt like a real, live, grown-up woman. My mother used to say, "You're just a late bloomer, honey...and that's ok!" I totally believe it.
All's well that ends well, as Shakespeare's Helena said. She was pretty much right...although perhaps I shouldn't compare my life with hers! But the tenor got the girl, they made 5 great kids, have a big, God-filled house with lots of love and noise, and everybody gets what he needs. The future is wide open.
Saturday, March 24, 2012
My Ten Goals
Here's my official update on the ten goals I set last summer:
1) I did have a vegetable garden. I grew bush and pole beans, three different kinds of peas, and cherry tomatoes. It was small but lovely. The weather didn't really get very hot for any length of time, so the tomatoes disappointed me a little bit. This year, I will plant different things!
2) I did NOT learn Yoga. I did bring my MS Yoga book to CO, but time just didn't lend itself to it. I still want to take on that challenge, especially now that summer is approaching once again.
3) I did, indeed, crank up the air conditioning any time I darned well felt like it. There weren't very many super hot days, but anytime I felt uncomfortable I just turned it on. No explanation to anyone. Just turned it on. So there.
4) I did not learn to make Lucy food. Still wanna. I am hoping she will be visiting in about 2 months for a couple of days or so, and I intend to strap her in the kitchen with me for a tutorial. I'll be taking notes--and maybe some video!
5) We all DID pack in the car, the 7 of us, and visit the Spokanites for Benen's birthday in July! We spent a few days with Angela's family (what's left of it!) at Black Lake, which was heavenly. Peter got over his fear of water, Rose verified that she is a daredevil and is NOT afraid of the water, and the other kids had a good time with their cousins. Catherine wants to live there! I can see her living in and amongst the wilderness someday.
6) I did not attend Mass regularly on days other than Sunday. I just......didn't. Yet another thing I'm planning on doing this summer. The big kids are so much more accountable and capable as babysitters, so I have few good excuses.
7) Although I failed at teaching the kids some Latin during the summer, when the chance came for the big kids to take it at school for 11 weeks, I jumped! They didn't learn much, but even the exposure was educational.
8) I DID make weekly dinner menus. Most of the time, we actually used them, too. I made sure to have the kids' lists of dinner they like on the refrigerator, so when there was an awkward day we could shift plans easily. I am still doing it--for the most part!
9) I did not read a novel last summer. I think this disappoints me more than any other unfulfilled goal.
10) I DID train the kids to do more housework. With the start of school, I realized that there is NO WAY we can continue the same level of kid participation in housework. Too much school work. There are no assigned, regular jobs...which is a bad idea. Even the "your job is to take out the garbage EVERY DAY" commands/follow-through is better than nothing. I'll work on that. Hard.
Not TOO bad, right? All ten things I originally chose are things that can be ongoing, and I plan on trying again! How did YOUR summer goals go?
1) I did have a vegetable garden. I grew bush and pole beans, three different kinds of peas, and cherry tomatoes. It was small but lovely. The weather didn't really get very hot for any length of time, so the tomatoes disappointed me a little bit. This year, I will plant different things!
2) I did NOT learn Yoga. I did bring my MS Yoga book to CO, but time just didn't lend itself to it. I still want to take on that challenge, especially now that summer is approaching once again.
3) I did, indeed, crank up the air conditioning any time I darned well felt like it. There weren't very many super hot days, but anytime I felt uncomfortable I just turned it on. No explanation to anyone. Just turned it on. So there.
4) I did not learn to make Lucy food. Still wanna. I am hoping she will be visiting in about 2 months for a couple of days or so, and I intend to strap her in the kitchen with me for a tutorial. I'll be taking notes--and maybe some video!
5) We all DID pack in the car, the 7 of us, and visit the Spokanites for Benen's birthday in July! We spent a few days with Angela's family (what's left of it!) at Black Lake, which was heavenly. Peter got over his fear of water, Rose verified that she is a daredevil and is NOT afraid of the water, and the other kids had a good time with their cousins. Catherine wants to live there! I can see her living in and amongst the wilderness someday.
6) I did not attend Mass regularly on days other than Sunday. I just......didn't. Yet another thing I'm planning on doing this summer. The big kids are so much more accountable and capable as babysitters, so I have few good excuses.
7) Although I failed at teaching the kids some Latin during the summer, when the chance came for the big kids to take it at school for 11 weeks, I jumped! They didn't learn much, but even the exposure was educational.
8) I DID make weekly dinner menus. Most of the time, we actually used them, too. I made sure to have the kids' lists of dinner they like on the refrigerator, so when there was an awkward day we could shift plans easily. I am still doing it--for the most part!
9) I did not read a novel last summer. I think this disappoints me more than any other unfulfilled goal.
10) I DID train the kids to do more housework. With the start of school, I realized that there is NO WAY we can continue the same level of kid participation in housework. Too much school work. There are no assigned, regular jobs...which is a bad idea. Even the "your job is to take out the garbage EVERY DAY" commands/follow-through is better than nothing. I'll work on that. Hard.
Not TOO bad, right? All ten things I originally chose are things that can be ongoing, and I plan on trying again! How did YOUR summer goals go?
Sunday, February 19, 2012
My 41st Birthday
***NOTE***
I began writing this post about a week before my hand injury. I just finished typing the remainder of the story, and I'd like to share it with you now!
My birthday was June 24, which was during the Greene Sibling Reunion at my brother's mountain cabin in CO. Now, the birthday before this one pretty much...umm...well, SUCKED. That's really the only way to describe it. No offense to my husband and kids, of course. They tried hard to create a nice celebration for my 40th birthday. However, on the heals of my big ol' MS attack and diagnosis, the big ol' 4-0 was not exactly something I planned a big party for...so it was just the 7 of us here at home. THIS year, I was spending the day without my little family, but I got to spend it with my HUGE, extended family.
The day began nicely, with most of the reunioners already at the cabin. People greeted me with happy birthday wishes and granted me lots of hugs and smiles. NICE! As the day progressed, I had a sneaking suspicion that "something" had been secretively planned for later. My sister, Monica, created two LOVELY platters of cakes and fruit for everyone's pleasure, topped with a birthday candle (it read, "OLD"). That, in itself, would have been great. But later, when darkness fell and everyone was settling down, the group congregated around the raging firepit. I was the last to arrive, having just checked in with my kids/husband on the phone (ya' had to walk a bit up the road in order to get a cell signal). Within seconds of my sitting down, Angela called me (loudly): "Mara?!" "Yes..." "I have something for you." She held out her hand and gave me a Starbucks card with FORTY-ONE DOLLARS on it! Oh, my goodness. But wait--there's more. She introduced person after person in the same way: "Mara?!" "Yes..." "So-and-so has something for you." I ended up with SEVERAL cards with 41 bucks on each one. HOLY CRAP! I STILL can't believe it. I was shocked, grateful, excited, greedy and giddy all rolled up in one. What a night.
By the way...it took me and the kids (I HAD to share my riches, right???) three short months to use up ALL the cards. It was REALLY fun.
I began writing this post about a week before my hand injury. I just finished typing the remainder of the story, and I'd like to share it with you now!
My birthday was June 24, which was during the Greene Sibling Reunion at my brother's mountain cabin in CO. Now, the birthday before this one pretty much...umm...well, SUCKED. That's really the only way to describe it. No offense to my husband and kids, of course. They tried hard to create a nice celebration for my 40th birthday. However, on the heals of my big ol' MS attack and diagnosis, the big ol' 4-0 was not exactly something I planned a big party for...so it was just the 7 of us here at home. THIS year, I was spending the day without my little family, but I got to spend it with my HUGE, extended family.
The day began nicely, with most of the reunioners already at the cabin. People greeted me with happy birthday wishes and granted me lots of hugs and smiles. NICE! As the day progressed, I had a sneaking suspicion that "something" had been secretively planned for later. My sister, Monica, created two LOVELY platters of cakes and fruit for everyone's pleasure, topped with a birthday candle (it read, "OLD"). That, in itself, would have been great. But later, when darkness fell and everyone was settling down, the group congregated around the raging firepit. I was the last to arrive, having just checked in with my kids/husband on the phone (ya' had to walk a bit up the road in order to get a cell signal). Within seconds of my sitting down, Angela called me (loudly): "Mara?!" "Yes..." "I have something for you." She held out her hand and gave me a Starbucks card with FORTY-ONE DOLLARS on it! Oh, my goodness. But wait--there's more. She introduced person after person in the same way: "Mara?!" "Yes..." "So-and-so has something for you." I ended up with SEVERAL cards with 41 bucks on each one. HOLY CRAP! I STILL can't believe it. I was shocked, grateful, excited, greedy and giddy all rolled up in one. What a night.
By the way...it took me and the kids (I HAD to share my riches, right???) three short months to use up ALL the cards. It was REALLY fun.
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